Dogs easily awaken the “Mom” and “Dad” in us. Understanding why we see them as our children is the first step toward avoiding the parenting trap and recognizing their true nature.
Neoteny and the Evolution of Dogs
When dogs began evolving from wolves and coming closer to humans, they had to find a way not to fear humans, and not to scare them either. This process is key to understanding why we see our dogs as our children. Throughout evolution, dogs retained neotenous characteristics—round eyes, small noses, and soft body lines—that trigger our parental instincts.
Baby-Like Features and the Parental Instinct
Humans are naturally drawn to beings with childlike features. Not only do dogs look like babies, but their behavior also reminds us of young offspring: they seek attention, depend on us, and remain emotionally attached.
[Image depicting the visual similarities between neotenous dog features and human infants]
Why This Becomes a Trap
A young wolf pup needs its parents to survive. An adult wolf can form a pack with others, but a pup cannot. The same applies to dogs: we’re naturally drawn to them and feel responsible for their well-being. That’s why we so easily fall into the parenting trap, seeing them as our children instead of recognizing them as independent beings.
Dogs are not our children, even though they awaken those instincts within us.
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Baby-like features in dogs awaken our parental instincts, which is why we often see them as children.
Community and Love
Understanding the evolutionary background and neotenous traits of dogs helps us separate instinctive attachment from parental emotion. Dogs remind us of wolf pups, but their role in our lives is different. They are not our children; they are our partners in community, trust, and love. Recognizing this allows them to thrive as the animals they truly are.
At Sasha Riess, we respect the dog’s true nature. While we understand why we see our dogs as our children, we strive to move past the „parenting trap“ toward a partnership based on leadership and respect. This clarity brings us to a state of pureloveandharmony, where the dog is free to be a dog. Discover more: Linktree Sasha Riess
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