Pretending that everything is fine has become one of the most expensive modern habits. When we enter this game of hiding the truth, from ourselves, from our partner, from our children, even from our dogs, our life slowly loses authenticity. Instead of living from our inner truth, we begin shaping situations out of fear.
Where will I live if I leave? How will I pay rent? What if I lose my job? What if everything falls apart? These questions seem rational, but they actually push us into emotional paralysis. Instead of choosing truth, we choose survival. And when we choose survival, the cost is always the same—health.
The Emotional Cost of Pretending
Every time we suppress what we feel, the body begins to react. Through stress, insomnia, fatigue, weakened immunity, tension, and even chronic illness. Our dogs and our children are the clearest witnesses of this. They intuitively feel everything we hide. A dog that is always restless, a child that does not listen, a home that constantly feels like a battlefield. All of it is a reflection of what we refuse to acknowledge.
There is no child that becomes spoiled on its own. There is no dog that becomes demanding without a reason. They become who we are in the moment when we send them messages that are not aligned with our inner state.
If a mother takes what is not hers—for example, stays in a marriage that has long been over, stays out of fear, out of need, out of convenience—the child will seek the same, what does not belong to them. If we pretend everything is fine when it is not, the dog will live in the energy of tension and imbalance, and will behave “problematically”, even though it is only mirroring our state. Children and dogs are not spoiled; they are our mirror.
A Relationship That Has Ended, but Still Continues
The greatest emotional cost of pretending comes from a relationship that ended long ago, yet still exists. A partnership reduced to logistics. Love that remains only in form, not in substance. A household that continues simply because no one has the courage to speak the truth.
This is where the most emotional resistance is born. And the dog feels every second of that tension. The child feels every unspoken sentence. Pretending costs us peace. Truth gives us life back.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we know that energy never lies. Your dog doesn’t react to your words, but to your truth. To heal the bond, you must first heal the silence: Linktree Sasha Riess
Today we follow the third wave of dog evolution through dogs from the movie screen and the messages they bring us. Dear readers, last time I spoke about free will and the thin veil behind which the forces that guide us operate. These cinematic dogs are not just characters in stories, but archetypes of our era, reflections of our longings and fears. Each of them reveals a piece of our path toward harmony.
Movie Dogs as Teachers of Harmony
Every movie dog carries a lesson about connection, belonging, and harmony that goes beyond the story itself.
Rin Tin Tin and the Third Wave of Evolution
We remember Rin Tin Tin, the puppy found in the ruins of war. His story began at a time when the world was shattered and tired, when people wanted to believe that courage was still possible. Rin Tin Tin became a movie star and a symbol of loyalty. They say he saved an entire film studio from bankruptcy, but what he truly saved was people’s belief that there is someone who protects, someone who never gives up.
His character was not just a dog. He was the image of strength that people searched for within themselves but could not find. Did people choose Rin Tin Tin, or did the dog from the ruins choose them? Perhaps neither. Perhaps it was simply the moment when human fear and canine courage met in the same place. In that meeting, something called belonging was born. The feeling that we are not alone in our own despair. And there we find the first lesson of harmony: strength does not come from control, but from surrendering to the relationship.
Then comes Lassie. Her journey home was much more than a movie plot. It was a return to everything that waits for us, everything that does not forget us. Lassie was the dog who crossed hills and rivers to return to her boy. Her journey awakened in people the memory of their own longing: to be seen, to be awaited, to be wanted.
In her return we see the other side of the human dog relationship. Here, the dog is not a projection of our strength but of our belonging. She goes toward the human, and in that movement we feel that we too are found. That is the moment when the dog shows that the relationship is never one sided. And when we watch Lassie, we know that the same instinct lives in us too, the instinct to find our way back to the one we love.
Dalmatians and the Messages of the Third Wave
In the sixties, the world was captivated by the story of the dalmatians. Hundreds of puppies on screen brought joy and laughter, and people rushed to buy dogs of that breed. Statistics show that demand increased by more than four hundred percent. But soon it became clear that not everyone was ready to live with that image. Dogs are not plush toys. Dogs are active, demanding, and require time and structure. Many ended up in shelters, because people wanted the feeling but could not carry the responsibility. This is the moment when harmony breaks. When we try to take joy without giving anything in return. And then the relationship collapses. The dalmatians became a mirror of human impatience, the desire to have everything immediately, without offering what the relationship demands.
Beethoven and the Evolution of Dogs Through Film
In the nineties, Beethoven the Saint Bernard entered our homes. His chaos was refreshing. He brought warmth into a family that was cold and rigid. The parents wanted control, the children were afraid, and the dog broke down the walls. Only when Beethoven arrived did the family find warmth again. He was not obedient, but he was true. His “chaos” was therapy. Beethoven teaches us that dogs do not come to please us, but to awaken us. He shows us where love is not flowing. Only when the parents learn to lead from the heart does the dog find peace. His stubbornness was the path toward the opening of the heart.
And then Hachiko. His story is perhaps the deepest of all. The dog who, for years after his owner’s death, sat and waited at the train station. No adventure. No play. No chaos. Only waiting. People around the world cried at that image. But unlike all other movie dogs, no one rushed to buy a Japanese Akita afterward. Why? Because Hachiko does not give the illusion of happiness. He confronts us with pain. His image is not the image of joy, but of sorrow that goes beyond words. He reminds us that love includes parting. That a bond does not end with death, but continues even when there is no response. Hachiko showed a dimension people did not want to possess. Because it is not a story of ownership. It is a story of devotion.
Krypto and the Messages of the Third Wave of Dog Evolution
And today, Krypto. The dog of a superhero. His strength is not in his power, but in his gentleness. The film inspired thousands of people to adopt shelter dogs. Krypto did not awaken the desire for a breed, but for an act of love. He is not a symbol of heroism but a symbol of invitation. He reminds us that a community can be moved by a single dog. And there we see a clear sign that the third wave has arrived. The dog is no longer a hero we seek, nor a projection of fashion, nor the breaker of family coldness. He is the initiator of harmony. He is the connection between people. He is the one who unites.
The Third Wave of Dog Evolution
If we look at the entire journey, we see a line: from Rin Tin Tin to Krypto, from courage to belonging, from trend to chaos, from pain to unity. This is not just the history of film. It is the history of our relationship with dogs. But also the history of ourselves.
In the first wave, we wanted dogs to give us what we did not have: courage, safety, belonging. In the second wave, we projected our desires: play, joy, warmth. In the third wave, dogs are no longer projections. They are teachers. They come to connect us. And here the true strength of the Order of Harmony is revealed. Harmony does not mean only happiness. It also means pain, waiting, parting. It means that a dog can leave, that life can separate us, and that we do not control everything. When we accept this, the illusion of free will as the ability to avoid pain disappears. What remains is free will as the ability to say yes to what is.
Hachiko and Krypto together form the whole of the third wave. One leads us inward, toward silence and acceptance. The other leads us outward, toward community and giving. And both lead us toward harmony. Dogs never judge us. Their gaze, even when they leave, is not a gaze of judgment. They do not understand human concepts of betrayal. They simply exist, in the flow of life. And perhaps that gaze is what teaches us that love is not always pretty and easy, but often painful and paradoxical.
The third wave of dog evolution reminds us that relationships do not exist to fulfill our desires. They exist to teach us to accept life. Harmony is born not when we control, but when we say yes to what is, and to whatever comes. Perhaps that is why it is important to remember all the dogs from the movie screen. They are not just heroes of our childhoods. They are teachers of our lives.
Rin Tin Tin reminded us of courage in ruins. Lassie reminded us of the return to belonging. The dalmatians reminded us of the temptation of joy without responsibility. Beethoven reminded us of the need for warmth. Hachiko reminded us of pain and waiting. And Krypto reminded us of unity. Each of them is part of the same river of life. And each brings us back to the question: do we choose dogs, or do they choose us?
A Meeting in Harmony
Perhaps the answer is not important. In the third wave of evolution, in the Order of Harmony, the difference disappears. There is only the meeting. The meeting of a human and a dog. A meeting in which there is no longer a question of who leads and who follows. There is flow. There is harmony. And in that harmony the need to choose dissolves. What remains is simply to say yes to life. With all its joys and with all its pain. And then free will finds its true form, not as power, but as acceptance. And that is what dogs teach us, on the screen and in life. They bring us back to ourselves. They teach us how to live in the third wave, the wave of evolution in which there are no divisions, but only one great yes.
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The Order of Harmony did not begin as a defined idea but as a journey into the unknown. At first, I only had a deep feeling that there was a strong emotional connection between dogs and their owners, one that went beyond the ordinary boundaries of behavior and training. Not as symbolism, not as obedience work, but as something essential and systemic, a bridge between two species that do not understand each other through words but feel the same.
The Order of Harmony: The Meeting with Ivana and Ela
Years ago, in New York, I met Ivana. She came to an individual workshop after hearing my television interview about the philosophy of living with dogs based on the deep interconnection between a human and a dog as one system. At that time, I still didn’t know how to explain it. I was only researching, noting behavioral patterns, and trying to understand what dogs were telling me through the behavior of their owners. Ivana didn’t come out of curiosity. She came out of pain.
The Unspoken Loss
The purest form of unconditional love exists between a mother and a child. Its strength fills the universe. To give life to another being is the most sacred task a human can experience. But what happens when that love is interrupted, frozen in time, without the possibility of expression? When pain overcomes hope, and fear silences truth? That is when those who do not speak but feel everything step in: the dogs.
The Workshop – The Last Stop
Ivana calmly told me that she had a problem with her Rottweiler, who had bitten her mother on the forehead. She was afraid the dog might become aggressive toward her children and was considering euthanasia, although she had already worked with trainers and tried various methods. The workshop was her last attempt before making that painful decision.
The Forgotten Truth
I listened carefully, letting her share everything that had happened. And then, a question arose within me that both frightened and confused me: “Are all our children alive?” As a father and as a therapist, I felt fear I did not yet know how to channel or accept as a guide. Instead, fear spoke through me as a question: “Were all your children born?”
Ivana replied, “No, I had two abortions.” I asked how many dogs she had. She said three. In that moment, it was clear, but I was too fragile to face it fully.
A dog as a silent witness to our tears – truth that sets free and connects.
The Order of Harmony and Dogs as Mirrors
The Order, however, was watching over me. We ended the workshop at a point where Ivana felt safe, and I told her that I believed we would see each other again soon. There was one more step for both of us to climb, but we would have to be ready.
A few minutes after she left, Ivana called me and said she had forgotten to share something she rarely talked about anymore. As a young woman, she had given birth to a child with developmental difficulties who, at her mother’s urging, was placed in an institution. The child had died. Although Ivana had worked on herself for years, she had never truly spoken about it. The memory faded over time, covered with layers of pain, anger, guilt, and shame. We agreed to meet again the next day.
Healing Through the Order of Harmony
When she returned, I asked her again, “Are all our children alive?” In that moment, everything became clear. And everything healed. Suddenly, everything was filled with light. Ivana began to cry. She spoke about the pain and anger she had suppressed for years. She realized that her anger toward her mother had never been truly resolved. Instead of releasing it, she had only pushed it deeper.
That was not the end of pain, but the beginning of new life. The moment that truth was spoken aloud, the dog Ela never again showed a trace of aggression. She was not at the workshop. I never saw her. Yet everything changed. The Order of Harmony is not a theory. It is an experience. Dogs do not carry our secrets; they reveal them.
Science Confirms the Order of Harmony
In psychoneuroimmunology research, such as the study published in Frontiers in Veterinary Science in 2023, it has been confirmed that stress in owners affects the behavior and health of dogs. Dogs that live with anxious or depressed people often develop behaviors that mirror human disorders: aggression, anxiety, hypervigilance.
Moreover, there is a documented link between chronic stress and cancer development in dogs, as shown in veterinary oncology studies (MACVETREV-2016-0088). Science confirms what the soul already knows: everything is connected.
The Gaze That Heals
But we don’t need scientific studies to recognize this truth. It is enough to look into a dog’s eyes. In a world where everyone is quick to suppress pain with a pill, dogs remain the only ones who do not run away. They sit beside us in silence and wait. For us to feel. To admit. To remember.
The Order of Harmony – a meeting between human and dog that reveals a deep connection of soul and love.
Pain as an Ally
Because pain does not have to hurt. We only believed it must. If we honor it and carry it with respect, it becomes a source of endless strength and creation. In the teaching of the Order of Love, which forms the foundation of the Order of Harmony, pain and anger are not symptoms to be removed. They are impulses pointing to disruption, exclusion, or forgetting. They live on through our children, our illnesses, and our dogs.
Dogs as Companions of the Soul
Dogs are part of our energetic field. When we acknowledge what belongs to us, we free them to be who they truly are: companions, not carriers of our burdens. A dog does not ask us to be perfect, only to be truthful.
The Legacy of a Bond: Ivana, Ela, and the Order of Harmony
Ivana and Ela shaped me as a therapist, as a father, as a man. Their story became part of the foundation of the Order of Harmony. Ela continued to live loved and at peace. She was never aggressive again. She died years later, peacefully. Ivana continued to grow, to feel, to live as a mother and a woman in wholeness.
The Light of the Order of Harmony in Life
Some pains stay with us forever. And they should. Not as wounds, but as light that reminds us of where we no longer need to go and of all the places we still can.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we look for the truth behind the behavior. When the soul speaks, the dog finds peace. Discover the system that heals: Linktree Sasha Riess
There was a time when we truly lived. Breathed. Existed as part of a world that didn’t ask us to prove love, worth, or meaning through what we own or achieve. Today, in an age of performance and self-promotion, it seems we have lost the ability to love simply, without needing to see ourselves reflected in the eyes of others.
Life Then and Now – When We Knew How to Feel
In the past, we relied on one another, in both pain and joy. We knew that not everything had to be easy, and that true connections were not always pleasant, but they were real. Today, however, we run away from conflict, uncertainty, and everything that reminds us of our vulnerability. In that silence, in that escape from ourselves, a dog often appears.
The Dog as a Substitute for Human Closeness
That is why today, more and more often, a dog sits across from a person in a restaurant. The dog listens, does not interrupt, does not judge. It asks for no explanation. It is easy to love such a being, one that never says no, never demands reciprocity, and never sets boundaries.
Anthropomorphism – When a Dog Becomes “Human”
In anthropomorphism, the process through which we assign human qualities to animals, lies the essence of our modern relationship with dogs. The dog becomes our emotional extension, the one through whom we live everything we cannot express ourselves. It becomes our child, our partner, our therapist.
The Dog Did Not Come to Be Your Pet, It Came to Change Your Life
A dog does not set boundaries. It does not force us to change. That is why it is the perfect companion for a generation that runs from pain, imperfection, and unpredictability. Our society functions more and more as a space where emotions are treated as discomfort to be avoided, not lived.
A dog’s gaze revealing the connection between a person and their emotions.
Loneliness as the New Norm
Loneliness has become a lifestyle. People work, communicate, and love through screens, while the dog becomes physical proof that we are not alone, at least on the outside. In its eyes, we seek the peace we cannot find in human relationships.
Perfect Relationships with Dogs – The Instagram Illusion
On Instagram, the dog wears a birthday hat, surrounded by balloons and cakes. On TikTok, it “talks” about its feelings. The dog becomes the main character in our emotional marketing, and we become the audience to our own lack of connection.
Dogs Take On Our Emotions
Dogs increasingly show symptoms that are not their own: anxiety, depression, stress. These are not their problems; they are reflections of ours. They become mirrors, our emotional extensions, carriers of everything we do not know how to process.
When the Dog Becomes Our Shield from the World
They enter places that are not theirs—airplanes, hotels, restaurants—not because they want to, but because we no longer know how to be alone. The dog becomes our protection, our boundary, our excuse, and our comfort, all in one.
How to Break the Cycle
So what now? How do we escape this circle of emotional dependency? Not by loving our dog less, but by learning to love ourselves more, sincerely, vulnerably, and without hiding behind someone’s unconditional love.
The loneliness of modern humans through the eyes of a dog.
Small Rituals That Restore Presence
That is why we created a guidebook, not as an absolute truth but as a tool. Small rituals that bring us back to presence: shared breathing, silence without words, a gaze without the need for validation. In those moments, the dog stops carrying our pain and becomes what it truly is—a being that reminds us what it means to be alive.
Presence as Medicine
Presence is not a state, it is a practice. Every day, the dog reminds us that everything we are searching for already exists within us. When we realize that, our relationship with the dog is no longer an escape from the world but a return to it. This is the path of the human dog relationship.
Silence that connects – a moment of sincere presence between a human and a dog.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we believe that true love doesn’t hide behind a leash. It faces the mirror of the soul. Find your balance and return to presence: Linktree Sasha Riess
Why is a dog a reflection of its owner? When a dog shows problematic behavior, it is never the dog’s problem. It is our reflection. The dog is not asking us to change him. He is asking us to change ourselves.
What Does It Mean That the Dog Mirrors the Owner
I often hear people say that they have a problematic dog. But the truth is that the dog is never the problem. The dog is our mirror. He senses our tension, our restlessness, and our insecurity. If a dog shows behavior we dislike, it is not a sign that the dog needs correction. It is a sign that we must first look within ourselves, because the dog mirrors the owner.
When I am not honest with myself, my dog cannot be calm. When I am tense, he becomes tight. When I am out of balance, he lives that imbalance with me.
Why We Try to Fix the Dog When the Dog Mirrors Us
People often turn to trainers, manuals, and new techniques, hoping to “fix the dog” without understanding that the dog is simply their mirror. The dog does not ask for correction. The dog asks for authenticity.
Just as a child is not responsible for how a parent feels, the dog is not the cause of the problem. The dog is the consequence. When we change ourselves, the dog changes with us. This is what I call a holistic approach.
The dog is not a correction, but a consequence—a reflection of your authenticity.
The Holistic Perspective We Often Miss
Medicine and veterinary science often look only at the symptom, without seeing the bigger picture. But life is not a sum of disconnected parts. The soul, emotions, and body are connected.
That is why solving only the consequence is not enough: barking, pulling on the leash, or digestive issues. If truth and inner change are missing, no trainer or expensive manual will help.
Truth and Authenticity as the Key to Change
We already have all the tools we need. What is often missing is truth. When we add truth to what we do, the dog responds and everything falls into place. Just like a child does not become happy when we try to “fix” it, but when the parent finds inner balance, the same is true for the dog. The dog is the result of our energy.
The Dog Is Not Your Problem. The Dog Is Your Indicator
If you want the dog to change, you must first change yourself. This is the hardest, yet the only path to true harmony with your dog. This is the ultimate truth of the human dog relationship.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we believe that the leash works both ways. To lead your dog to peace, you must first find it within yourself. Discover the path to true authenticity:Linktree Sasha Riess
The inspiration for this column came one afternoon while sitting in a café, witnessing a scene that exposed the cruelty and hypocrisy of our system. Rescuing dogs and understanding their nature often reveals how far we are from true empathy — and how deeply dogs and human childhood trauma can intertwine through shared, unhealed pain.
Invisible Discrimination Against Dogs
A young woman entered quietly with her dog—a strong, muscular breed, perhaps a Staffordshire Terrier or a Pit Bull. The dog made no noise, reacted to no one, and just rested his head on her leg. Despite this, a waiter asked them to leave because guests „didn’t feel safe.“ Meanwhile, a barking, lunging Pomeranian on the other side of the café was met with laughter and pictures.
So what was truly dangerous in that scene? The dog — or our perception of what danger looks like?
A look that shatters prejudices—a dog is not genetic evil, but a reflection of human misunderstanding.
The Myth of “Dangerous Breeds”
Dr. Karen Overall, a veterinary behaviorist, analyzed 15,000 cases of dog bites. The results were striking:
84% of bites were caused by dogs that had never shown aggression before.
67% of bites came from dogs under 20 kg.
Pit Bulls, Dobermans, and Rottweilers together accounted for less than 12% of all incidents.
Rescuing dogs unfairly labeled as “dangerous” is therefore not just an act of kindness — it’s a moral stance.
The Roots of Eugenics and the Idea of a “Pure Breed”
Banning specific breeds isn’t about safety — it’s an admission of ignorance. When we don’t know how to educate owners, we ban dogs. The list of “dangerous breeds” is a symptom of a society still echoing the ideology of eugenics. Rescuing dogs in this context is truly a fight for the freedom of all living beings.
Aggression Is Not Inborn — It’s a Consequence
Aggression is not a trait, nor a disorder — it’s a consequence. Dr. Jaak Panksepp discovered that aggression in mammals is triggered when there’s a perceived threat and no alternative escape. Dogs don’t fight because they’re “evil” — they fight because they see no other way out. In many cases, canine aggression mirrors unresolved trauma from the human owner.
The Emotional Field and Inner Healing
Our emotions create an energetic field that dogs can sense. Dr. Rollin McCraty proved that the heart emits a field 60 times stronger than the brain. That’s why true dog rescue doesn’t begin in shelters — it begins within us. When we heal our own pain, the dog no longer has to carry it.
The Dog as a Mirror of Society
Aggression is everywhere — in wars, on streets, in homes. But when it surfaces, we project it outward onto others, or onto dogs. A dog that growls is often not the problem — but the only one who can no longer stay silent.
The Path of Change — The Philosophy of Pure Love and Harmony
Rescuing dogs and rebuilding trust begins through four steps:
Recognition – instead of labeling, ask: “What is the dog trying to tell me?”
Responsibility – take ownership of your own energy.
Transformation – by changing ourselves, we transform the dog’s space.
Harmony – build relationships through understanding, not control.
Understanding instead of judgment – a shared path toward shattering the myth of genetic evil.
Saving Dogs as a Mirror of Human Awareness
If we want real change, we don’t need to change dogs — we need to change ourselves. Rescuing dogs is a symbol of rescuing empathy, awareness, and love in a world that fears difference. A dog is not a reflection of genetic evil — but of our collective pain and our capacity to heal. This is the foundation of the human dog relationship.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we believe that no breed is born with a label. We look past the muzzle to find the soul. Join us in transforming the way the world sees dogs: Linktree Sasha Riess
