The connection between a dog and a person’s childhood trauma runs deeper than most people think. A dog often becomes a silent witness to our pain, a guardian of memories, and a reflection of what we lived through as children. Their love is not only comforting. It is a mirror through which we can recognize and understand our own vulnerability.
How a Dog Reflects the Childhood Trauma of Its Owner
“What are you talking about? Of course a dog needs to be trained. Especially if it lives in an apartment and is a large breed. Just like children go to school.”
This is not the first time I have heard this comment. I receive it every time I say that dogs should not be trained. And each time it hurts, not because it is offensive, but because it is an authentic expression of pain. Our collective pain. The way we ourselves were trained. And the way we continue to train others because we believe that is what love looks like.
Love as a Justification for Abuse
Sometimes the only way to survive abuse, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is to fall in love with our abusers. To justify their actions. To believe it is for our own good. And if we live long enough inside that belief, one day we will start to take pride in being “well raised.” Then we will begin doing the same to our dogs or even our children, because it is the only way we ever learned to love, the only way we were ever loved.
Research: How Owner Behavior Influences Canine Physiology
A year ago we started a study titled “The Influence of Changes in Owner Behavior on the Physiology of Their Dogs.” The goal was to determine whether changes in owner behavior could create long term biochemical changes in dogs. Instead of focusing only on behavior, we analyzed physiology using HTMA hair analysis, a method that measures mineral and toxic metal accumulation in the hair, revealing metabolic patterns during the period in which the hair grew.
The Mineral Shell: A Physical Indicator of Chronic Stress in Dogs
The results were striking, though not unexpected. Dogs living in environments with chronically elevated stress in their owners, and whose owners were unable to change their life circumstances, showed specific patterns of biochemical adaptation. One of the most notable findings was the “mineral shell” phenomenon, where certain minerals, most often calcium, and toxic metals accumulate excessively in tissues. This indicates suppressed adrenal function, long lasting stress, and a metabolic withdrawal from the environment. The body literally shuts down, creating a physiological shield against surroundings it perceives as unbearable.
In the silence between human and dog, often lies what words cannot say.
Behavior as a Reflection of the Owner’s Inner State
In the behavior of these dogs, patterns of hyperactivity, compulsive barking, leash pulling, and signs of inhibition were observed. Emotional withdrawal, loss of interest, and profound fatigue were common. Neurochemically, their bodies operate in chronic survival mode: reduced regeneration, increased reactivity, and blocked adaptive functions.
Change Through the Owner’s Stability: Results of the Harmony Manual
In contrast, dogs whose owners applied principles from the Harmony Manual program showed entirely different patterns. In a more stable and predictable environment, these dogs demonstrated increased magnesium and potassium levels, essential for balancing the autonomic nervous system and supporting regeneration. Sodium levels decreased, indicating reduced systemic stress.
In the Silence Between Humans and Dogs, Much Is Said Without Words
The most important point is that the change did not come from external correction of behavior, but from internal reorganization. These dogs were not trained to stop barking or to obey commands. Through the emotional stability and safety created by their owners, they spontaneously began behaving differently. Their nervous systems left survival mode and activated the functions of exploration, learning, and rest.
Trauma Versus Learning: Why Force Cannot Change the Core
The only way to influence someone’s behavior from the outside is through trauma. External pressure, coercion, or intimidation does not change inner motivation. It only adjusts behavior to avoid pain or punishment. Such change is not the result of free will but a survival mechanism, a physiological adaptation to a threatening environment. Its effects remain deeply recorded in the nervous system and can lead to long term damage.
Learning as an Expression of Freedom: When a Dog Learns From Safety
Learning is the expression of free will. It requires safety, internal stability, and a physiological state capable of exploring and engaging with the world. Only then can the body develop the functions needed for active participation in life. True learning allows spontaneous regulation of behavior, integration of new experiences, and adaptation without harming the integrity of the body.
Pavlov, Watson, and the History of Conditioning
Many modern dog behaviorists still refer to Pavlov’s experiment as the basis for so called “positive conditioning.” Yet Pavlov himself emphasized that his method does not teach learning but reflex. Withholding food when a dog does not perform what is expected is a form of controlled deprivation. It is a manipulation that resembles emotional blackmail. It is trauma of low intensity, but chronic in nature. Training is trauma.
Watson on Learning: The Difference Between Conditioning and Real Development
Watson’s experiment with Little Albert reminds us that conditioning is not learning. The child, conditioned to fear all white and soft objects, later showed neurological problems and died at the age of nine. Many scientists linked the trauma of the experiment to the deterioration of his condition. Today, with knowledge from neuroplasticity, neuroscience, affective attachment theory, and the influence of environment on physiology, it is clear that the consequences of such conditioning align with the modern understanding of trauma.
When a dog releases tension, we learn how to live without fear.
Reexamining the Relationship: Are We Training or Traumatizing
As far back as 1907, Watson wrote in his dissertation “The Education of Animals” about the difference between conditioning and learning. Conditioning produces a mechanical response to external stimuli. Real learning involves the creation of new neural pathways in the cerebral cortex. It changes the gray structures of the brain and the physiology that underlies behavior. These changes occur only through free will, inner motivation, and safety. Inspired learning builds a physiological foundation for growth, understanding, and emotional connection. Forced learning creates only reflex, never development.
When a dog releases tension, we learn how to live without fear.
Reconsidering Our Relationship With Dogs
So I ask: are we doing the same to our dogs? We train them to sit, to stay quiet, to stop barking, to stop pulling, to stop existing. And when they stop “misbehaving,” when they become calm and obedient, we celebrate our success. But what we are celebrating is a frozen trauma. Chronic stress. Psychophysiological collapse that, just like in Little Albert, may not be visible immediately but will one day demand a price.
Pure Love and Harmony: A Call for True Change
Pure Love and Harmony is not a method. It is an invitation to reflect. To create an environment where a dog can breathe next to us, explore, feel, and develop.
Life Beyond Survival Mode: Returning to Warmth and Peace
As long as we replace love with control and obedience with fear, we will never know how light and peaceful life can be when it is not lived in survival mode. For us. And for them.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we believe that healing the bond means healing ourselves. When we step out of the cycle of training and into the space of connection, we find true harmony. Learn more about our research and philosophy: Linktree Sasha Riess
Supporting dogs through nutrition is not just a technical task. It is one of the most important ways we show love to our dogs. Food is at the heart of our relationship, and it is essential to understand how deeply our nutritional choices influence their health, energy, and emotional stability.
Why Nutritional Support Is Essential for a Dog’s Health
When we understand that nutritional support directly affects immunity, behavior, and resilience to stress, we begin to see that food is not a small detail. It is the foundation of their stability. Proper nutrition is the first step toward reducing stress in dogs.
Let Us Support Our Dogs Through Food
Food is not just fuel for the dog’s body; it is the strongest bridge between us and them. Through food, we express care, nurture, and show the dog that it belongs. This is where the most important part of the human dog relationship begins: support.
Today, many owners live in fear of making a mistake. They struggle with choosing food and worry they might harm their dog. This is normal. But every day you can make a step toward giving your dog what strengthens it from the inside out.
From „Dead Food“ to Vitality
The transition away from dead food—food without life, energy, or real nutritional value—is a return to vitality. It is a path through which we stop creating tired, depleted zombies who struggle to cope with the world we placed them in.
Dogs live our choices and carry the weight of our modern environment:
Dogs live our choices and carry the weight of our modern environment.
How Nutritional Support Reflects Our Care
If we want to truly be their safety, we must show care through the one thing they depend on most: food. In nutrition, we can give them what no one else can—support that nourishes, heals, strengthens, and restores their spark of life.
Because food is love. And love is responsibility. This is the core of pureloveandharmony.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we teach that a dog’s bowl is the start of their emotional health. When we feed the body correctly, we protect the soul. Join the movement: Linktree Sasha Riess
A dog and a human are neither a pack nor a family; they create a unique bond built on trust, love, and mutual growth.
The Dog and the Human Are Not a Pack
When we speak of a pack, we think of a family with clear biological connections: mother, father, offspring. In that sense, a dog and a human can never form a pack. What arises between them is something different, unique, and difficult to explain through natural laws.
A Bond That Transcends Hierarchy
What exists between a dog and a human goes beyond the rules of hierarchy and survival. It is not a relationship of dominance but a space where trust, love, and belonging create community. The dog sees safety and support in the human, while the human sees in the dog the reflection of his own soul.
A New Community: Beyond Boundaries
A dog and a human together do not form a pack. They create a new, unique community where boundaries disappear. It is a space in which both are shaped, grow, and learn through each other. Every interaction with a dog reminds us of the importance of honesty, patience, and love that has no form, no rules, and no end. This is the essence of the human dog relationship in its purest form.
Trust is the foundation of the human dog relationship.
The Lesson a Dog Brings
This bond teaches us that love is not limited by natural laws. A dog and a human build a relationship that is unbreakable and unique. There is no hierarchy, no structure, only trust and shared growth. Through this connection, we learn that true love is free and infinite. This understanding is what defines pureloveandharmony.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we believe that when we stop trying to „lead“ and start trying to „connect,“ we finally find the harmony we’ve been seeking. Discover the Third Wave: Linktree Sasha Riess
Teeth cleaning in dogs is a far more complex issue than it seems at first glance. Everything depends on why the dog has dental problems. In most cases, the issue is dental plaque, but it’s important to understand that bacteria in this process are a secondary occurrence.
Understanding the Cause, Not Just the Symptom
Dental plaque itself is a normal phenomenon. The problem begins when calcification and mineralization of the plaque occur, a process that would not happen if the thyroid gland were functioning properly.
When that function weakens, minerals begin to “wander” through the system, depositing themselves and creating the foundation for tartar buildup. That’s why teeth cleaning in dogs is often only a symptomatic solution. Ultrasound treatments and toothpastes can help temporarily, but the problem returns quickly because the underlying cause remains unresolved.
How Tartar Forms: The Mineral Process
The process begins with calcification and mineralization of plaque. The first colony of bacteria adheres to these minerals, followed by an entire microbiological community attaching itself to the surface. The result is:
Unpleasant odor
Tissue decay
Formation of a solid tartar layer
The only real solution is to prevent excess mineral accumulation, which depends on maintaining healthy thyroid function within the human dog relationship.
The Connection Between Stress and Tartar
The thyroid gland is directly connected to the adrenal glands and to the levels of adrenaline and cortisol in the blood. When a dog is anxious and lives under constant stress, adrenal activity increases while the thyroid weakens. This leads to an overall imbalance, including dental problems.
Peace and a stable relationship reduce the risk of dental problems
Chronic stress can even cause the formation of small nodules on the parathyroid glands. That’s why resolving teeth cleaning in dogs is directly related to communication and a sense of safety within the home.
The Real Solution: Peace and Balance
A dog that lives in peace, with a stable relationship and clear boundaries, has a much lower chance of developing chronic dental issues. The true answer doesn’t lie in ultrasonic cleaning but in understanding the cause—from hormones to the dog’s emotional state.
The teeth are a mirror of a dog’s inner balance, just as our smile reflects our own health and peace.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we look beyond the surface. A healthy smile starts with a balanced soul and a stable thyroid. Explore our philosophy of harmony: Linktree Sasha Riess
Spaying and neutering dogs were considered for decades a routine and almost mandatory practice of responsible ownership. However, modern veterinary science and new research are now questioning this approach, pointing to serious long-term health consequences for dogs and cats.
How the Professional View on Spaying and Neutering Has Changed
For many years, it was believed that the ideal time to neuter a dog was around the second year of life, after growth and development were completed. Yet, long-term experience in working with dogs, monitoring behavior and health issues, and reviewing scientific studies have shown that routine spaying and neutering dogs is not a universal solution.
Today, there is a growing emphasis that these procedures should be viewed exclusively as a therapeutic model, not as a preventive measure applied without individual assessment.
WSAVA Changes Recommendations: Spaying Only When There Is a Medical Reason
The World Small Animal Veterinary Association (WSAVA) has officially changed its recommendations regarding spaying and neutering dogs. In an executive summary published in 2024, it states that due to increasing evidence of harmful health effects of traditional gonadectomy, responsible owners are encouraged to leave dogs and cats intact unless there is a clear medical reason.
Special attention is drawn to the increased risk of:
Malignant diseases
Joint and skeletal disorders
Hormonal imbalance
Metabolic problems
WSAVA emphasizes that spaying and neutering dogs younger than six months is not recommended, as it significantly increases the risk of long-term health consequences within the human dog relationship.
When Spaying and Neutering Dogs Is Justified
According to modern guidelines, these procedures have justification:
In cases of malignant diseases of the reproductive system.
When there is a clear therapeutic reason.
In special circumstances such as shelters, with the use of alternative methods that carry lower health risks.
WSAVA changes its position on routine gonadectomy.
WSAVA also points out that although population control is important, it is not clear whether mass low-cost sterilization programs have truly reduced the number of abandoned animals, nor whether TNR programs bring long-term results.
Responsible Ownership Means an Individual Decision
Spaying and neutering dogs are not a question of morality but of medicine. A modern approach requires individual assessment of each dog, its health, environment, and real risks. Routine decisions without analysis are no longer in line with current science.
At Integrative and Holistic Grooming Education, we advocate for decisions based on biology and individual needs. Respecting the dog’s hormonal integrity is a key part of the Order of Harmony. Explore our philosophy: Linktree Sasha Riess
