The Dog as a Mirror of Its Owner: Why a Dog’s Behavior Reflects Us

The Dog as a Mirror of Its Owner: Why a Dog’s Behavior Reflects Us

Why is a dog a reflection of its owner? When a dog shows problematic behavior, it is never the dog’s problem. It is our reflection. The dog is not asking us to change him. He is asking us to change ourselves.

What Does It Mean That the Dog Mirrors the Owner

I often hear people say that they have a problematic dog. But the truth is that the dog is never the problem. The dog is our mirror. He senses our tension, our restlessness, and our insecurity. If a dog shows behavior we dislike, it is not a sign that the dog needs correction. It is a sign that we must first look within ourselves, because the dog mirrors the owner.

When I am not honest with myself, my dog cannot be calm. When I am tense, he becomes tight. When I am out of balance, he lives that imbalance with me.

Why We Try to Fix the Dog When the Dog Mirrors Us

People often turn to trainers, manuals, and new techniques, hoping to “fix the dog” without understanding that the dog is simply their mirror. The dog does not ask for correction. The dog asks for authenticity.

Just as a child is not responsible for how a parent feels, the dog is not the cause of the problem. The dog is the consequence. When we change ourselves, the dog changes with us. This is what I call a holistic approach.

 

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A small white dog lying relaxed on its back in a home, illustrating the dog as a mirror of its owner's inner calm and authenticity

The dog is not a correction, but a consequence—a reflection of your authenticity.

 

The Holistic Perspective We Often Miss

Medicine and veterinary science often look only at the symptom, without seeing the bigger picture. But life is not a sum of disconnected parts. The soul, emotions, and body are connected.

That is why solving only the consequence is not enough: barking, pulling on the leash, or digestive issues. If truth and inner change are missing, no trainer or expensive manual will help.

Truth and Authenticity as the Key to Change

We already have all the tools we need. What is often missing is truth. When we add truth to what we do, the dog responds and everything falls into place. Just like a child does not become happy when we try to “fix” it, but when the parent finds inner balance, the same is true for the dog. The dog is the result of our energy.

The Dog Is Not Your Problem. The Dog Is Your Indicator

If you want the dog to change, you must first change yourself. This is the hardest, yet the only path to true harmony with your dog. This is the ultimate truth of the human dog relationship.


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The Genetics of Evil: A Myth That Destroys Both Humans and Dogs

The Genetics of Evil: A Myth That Destroys Both Humans and Dogs

The inspiration for this column came one afternoon while sitting in a café, witnessing a scene that exposed the cruelty and hypocrisy of our system. Rescuing dogs and understanding their nature often reveals how far we are from true empathy — and how deeply dogs and human childhood trauma can intertwine through shared, unhealed pain.

Invisible Discrimination Against Dogs

A young woman entered quietly with her dog—a strong, muscular breed, perhaps a Staffordshire Terrier or a Pit Bull. The dog made no noise, reacted to no one, and just rested his head on her leg. Despite this, a waiter asked them to leave because guests „didn’t feel safe.“ Meanwhile, a barking, lunging Pomeranian on the other side of the café was met with laughter and pictures.

So what was truly dangerous in that scene? The dog — or our perception of what danger looks like?

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A close-up portrait of a Staffordshire Terrier with a look that symbolizes injustice and prejudice against rescuing dogs of certain breeds

A look that shatters prejudices—a dog is not genetic evil, but a reflection of human misunderstanding.

 

The Myth of “Dangerous Breeds”

Dr. Karen Overall, a veterinary behaviorist, analyzed 15,000 cases of dog bites. The results were striking:

  • 84% of bites were caused by dogs that had never shown aggression before.

  • 67% of bites came from dogs under 20 kg.

  • Pit Bulls, Dobermans, and Rottweilers together accounted for less than 12% of all incidents.

Rescuing dogs unfairly labeled as “dangerous” is therefore not just an act of kindness — it’s a moral stance.

The Roots of Eugenics and the Idea of a “Pure Breed”

Banning specific breeds isn’t about safety — it’s an admission of ignorance. When we don’t know how to educate owners, we ban dogs. The list of “dangerous breeds” is a symptom of a society still echoing the ideology of eugenics. Rescuing dogs in this context is truly a fight for the freedom of all living beings.

Aggression Is Not Inborn — It’s a Consequence

Aggression is not a trait, nor a disorder — it’s a consequence. Dr. Jaak Panksepp discovered that aggression in mammals is triggered when there’s a perceived threat and no alternative escape. Dogs don’t fight because they’re “evil” — they fight because they see no other way out. In many cases, canine aggression mirrors unresolved trauma from the human owner.

The Emotional Field and Inner Healing

Our emotions create an energetic field that dogs can sense. Dr. Rollin McCraty proved that the heart emits a field 60 times stronger than the brain. That’s why true dog rescue doesn’t begin in shelters — it begins within us. When we heal our own pain, the dog no longer has to carry it.

The Dog as a Mirror of Society

Aggression is everywhere — in wars, on streets, in homes. But when it surfaces, we project it outward onto others, or onto dogs. A dog that growls is often not the problem — but the only one who can no longer stay silent.

The Path of Change — The Philosophy of Pure Love and Harmony

Rescuing dogs and rebuilding trust begins through four steps:

  1. Recognition – instead of labeling, ask: “What is the dog trying to tell me?”

  2. Responsibility – take ownership of your own energy.

  3. Transformation – by changing ourselves, we transform the dog’s space.

  4. Harmony – build relationships through understanding, not control.

 

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A human and a dog sharing a moment of mutual trust, representing the essence of understanding in rescuing dogs

Understanding instead of judgment – a shared path toward shattering the myth of genetic evil.

 

Saving Dogs as a Mirror of Human Awareness

If we want real change, we don’t need to change dogs — we need to change ourselves. Rescuing dogs is a symbol of rescuing empathy, awareness, and love in a world that fears difference. A dog is not a reflection of genetic evil — but of our collective pain and our capacity to heal. This is the foundation of the human dog relationship.


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The Dog and Childhood Trauma: When Love Hurts in Silence

The Dog and Childhood Trauma: When Love Hurts in Silence

The connection between a dog and a person’s childhood trauma runs deeper than most people think. A dog often becomes a silent witness to our pain, a guardian of memories, and a reflection of what we lived through as children. Their love is not only comforting. It is a mirror through which we can recognize and understand our own vulnerability.

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“What are you talking about? Of course a dog needs to be trained. Especially if it lives in an apartment and is a large breed. Just like children go to school.”

This is not the first time I have heard this comment. I receive it every time I say that dogs should not be trained. And each time it hurts, not because it is offensive, but because it is an authentic expression of pain. Our collective pain. The way we ourselves were trained. And the way we continue to train others because we believe that is what love looks like.

Love as a Justification for Abuse

Sometimes the only way to survive abuse, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is to fall in love with our abusers. To justify their actions. To believe it is for our own good. And if we live long enough inside that belief, one day we will start to take pride in being “well raised.” Then we will begin doing the same to our dogs or even our children, because it is the only way we ever learned to love, the only way we were ever loved.

Research: How Owner Behavior Influences Canine Physiology

A year ago we started a study titled “The Influence of Changes in Owner Behavior on the Physiology of Their Dogs.” The goal was to determine whether changes in owner behavior could create long term biochemical changes in dogs. Instead of focusing only on behavior, we analyzed physiology using HTMA hair analysis, a method that measures mineral and toxic metal accumulation in the hair, revealing metabolic patterns during the period in which the hair grew.

The Mineral Shell: A Physical Indicator of Chronic Stress in Dogs

The results were striking, though not unexpected. Dogs living in environments with chronically elevated stress in their owners, and whose owners were unable to change their life circumstances, showed specific patterns of biochemical adaptation. One of the most notable findings was the “mineral shell” phenomenon, where certain minerals, most often calcium, and toxic metals accumulate excessively in tissues. This indicates suppressed adrenal function, long lasting stress, and a metabolic withdrawal from the environment. The body literally shuts down, creating a physiological shield against surroundings it perceives as unbearable.

 

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A woman sitting next to a dog in nature, both observing the horizon in silence, symbolizing the healing of dog childhood trauma

In the silence between human and dog, often lies what words cannot say.

 

Behavior as a Reflection of the Owner’s Inner State

In the behavior of these dogs, patterns of hyperactivity, compulsive barking, leash pulling, and signs of inhibition were observed. Emotional withdrawal, loss of interest, and profound fatigue were common. Neurochemically, their bodies operate in chronic survival mode: reduced regeneration, increased reactivity, and blocked adaptive functions.

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In contrast, dogs whose owners applied principles from the Harmony Manual program showed entirely different patterns. In a more stable and predictable environment, these dogs demonstrated increased magnesium and potassium levels, essential for balancing the autonomic nervous system and supporting regeneration. Sodium levels decreased, indicating reduced systemic stress.

In the Silence Between Humans and Dogs, Much Is Said Without Words

The most important point is that the change did not come from external correction of behavior, but from internal reorganization. These dogs were not trained to stop barking or to obey commands. Through the emotional stability and safety created by their owners, they spontaneously began behaving differently. Their nervous systems left survival mode and activated the functions of exploration, learning, and rest.

Trauma Versus Learning: Why Force Cannot Change the Core

The only way to influence someone’s behavior from the outside is through trauma. External pressure, coercion, or intimidation does not change inner motivation. It only adjusts behavior to avoid pain or punishment. Such change is not the result of free will but a survival mechanism, a physiological adaptation to a threatening environment. Its effects remain deeply recorded in the nervous system and can lead to long term damage.

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Learning is the expression of free will. It requires safety, internal stability, and a physiological state capable of exploring and engaging with the world. Only then can the body develop the functions needed for active participation in life. True learning allows spontaneous regulation of behavior, integration of new experiences, and adaptation without harming the integrity of the body.

Pavlov, Watson, and the History of Conditioning

Many modern dog behaviorists still refer to Pavlov’s experiment as the basis for so called “positive conditioning.” Yet Pavlov himself emphasized that his method does not teach learning but reflex. Withholding food when a dog does not perform what is expected is a form of controlled deprivation. It is a manipulation that resembles emotional blackmail. It is trauma of low intensity, but chronic in nature. Training is trauma.

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Watson’s experiment with Little Albert reminds us that conditioning is not learning. The child, conditioned to fear all white and soft objects, later showed neurological problems and died at the age of nine. Many scientists linked the trauma of the experiment to the deterioration of his condition. Today, with knowledge from neuroplasticity, neuroscience, affective attachment theory, and the influence of environment on physiology, it is clear that the consequences of such conditioning align with the modern understanding of trauma.

When a dog releases tension, we learn how to live without fear.

Reexamining the Relationship: Are We Training or Traumatizing

As far back as 1907, Watson wrote in his dissertation “The Education of Animals” about the difference between conditioning and learning. Conditioning produces a mechanical response to external stimuli. Real learning involves the creation of new neural pathways in the cerebral cortex. It changes the gray structures of the brain and the physiology that underlies behavior. These changes occur only through free will, inner motivation, and safety. Inspired learning builds a physiological foundation for growth, understanding, and emotional connection. Forced learning creates only reflex, never development.

 

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A dog running freely in golden sunset light, a symbol of release and healing from dog childhood trauma

When a dog releases tension, we learn how to live without fear.

 

Reconsidering Our Relationship With Dogs

So I ask: are we doing the same to our dogs? We train them to sit, to stay quiet, to stop barking, to stop pulling, to stop existing. And when they stop “misbehaving,” when they become calm and obedient, we celebrate our success. But what we are celebrating is a frozen trauma. Chronic stress. Psychophysiological collapse that, just like in Little Albert, may not be visible immediately but will one day demand a price.

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As long as we replace love with control and obedience with fear, we will never know how light and peaceful life can be when it is not lived in survival mode. For us. And for them.

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Suffering as a Path: How a Dog Reveals the Real Price of Our Choices

Suffering as a Path: How a Dog Reveals the Real Price of Our Choices

Dogs teach us that pain is not the end but a doorway into a deeper relationship with ourselves, with others, and with life. They show us how suffering as a path and pain shape our lives and our bond with a dog. We try to escape suffering as if it were the enemy, but once we acknowledge it, it transforms into a path that leads us back to love.

Dogs know this better than we do. Their eyes hold no judgment, even when it hurts.

Pain and Suffering: How They Shape the Dog and Our Relationship

Today I want to explore a word that makes most people uncomfortable: suffering. We would prefer to avoid it, hide it, push it away somewhere we cannot see it, as if that would neutralize it. But the truth is different. Suffering finds us even when we do not look for it. It sits beside us, enters our relationships, our bodies, our breath. And the more we push it away, the more tightly it holds us.

Maybe it is time to turn our gaze around. Maybe suffering as a path is not the enemy, but a road we walk not because we want to, but because it is part of life.

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In the Order of Harmony, suffering has its rightful place. It is not random, not a punishment, not an unfortunate accident that “just happened.” Suffering appears when life demands that something within us stops and looks. When we run from it, it becomes louder. When we agree to face it, it begins to change.

The Dog as a Mirror: How Suffering Shapes Both Dog and Human

A dog in the home is often the first to show that suffering has entered the space between people. He does not speak our language, but he reveals it through his body and behavior. The dog does not “invent” a problem. He announces the pain that already exists. Suffering then stops being individual. It becomes relational.

Acceptance as the Beginning of Change

We often believe that we can overcome suffering through strength of will. That we can push through, endure, hold ourselves together. But will alone does not bring peace. Will becomes tired, breaks, burns out. Suffering as a path does not melt through force, but through acceptance. Acceptance does not mean approval or passivity. It means saying: “Yes, you are here. I acknowledge you.”

Once we acknowledge suffering, it no longer hides, and therefore no longer controls us from the shadows.

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A dog sensing suffering as a path within the human relationship, acting as an emotional mirror

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How Suffering Shapes the Dog Through Family Life

In the Pure Love and Harmony philosophy, suffering is not the end of the road but a doorway. A doorway we step through to reach the inner space where love is no longer tied to expectations, but to its true essence. Through pain, love often becomes pure. A dog, who walks alongside a human through suffering, demands no justification. He simply is. And in his simple presence lies the lesson: love does not end because pain exists. On the contrary, through pain love becomes true.

Suffering Shapes the Dog Long Before We Notice It

Many people ask: “Why do dogs suffer? They do not deserve pain.” The truth is that a dog is not just an individual. He is part of a relationship, part of a family. He carries what others cannot. His suffering often becomes a mirror of our own. He reveals what we hide. When we acknowledge our own pain and the dog’s pain, suffering as a path becomes a way of connection. Not something that separates us, but something that brings us closer.

Acceptance as the Beginning of Transformation

Suffering as a path is not easy. It teaches silence. It teaches us to go beneath words and explanations, to release the need to fix everything, and simply be present. Life is not only joy and ascents, but also falls, emptiness, and extremes. In that school, the dog is the teacher. His gaze contains no judgment. When he suffers, he does not ask “Why me?” He simply walks through it.

The Third Wave: Suffering Shapes the Dog and Cannot Be Overcome by Will

In the Order of Harmony, suffering has its place. No longer hidden, no longer exiled. When we say “yes” to suffering, we open the door to peace. Because beyond pain comes silence. And in that silence, we discover that we are not alone.

This is where the Third Wave of Dog Evolution gains its full meaning. In the first wave, we viewed dogs as heroes who protect us. In the second wave, we turned them into images of our desires. In the third wave, they become our companions in harmony, in joy and in suffering. They teach us that love is not always easy, but through pain it can become authentic.

 

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A dog in silence expressing suffering as a path to inner harmony and peace

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Suffering as a Path to Harmony in Life

Suffering is not the end, but a path. A path that leads us through darkness so we can find the light. A path that teaches us that love and pain are not opposites, but two sides of the same life. Suffering can make us bitter, but once we accept it, it can make us gentle. And gentleness, in a world that constantly demands strength, may be the greatest courage of all.

By acknowledging everything that exists, both joy and pain, we create space for true harmony. And then the dog is no longer just a dog. He becomes a guide, a reminder that we are already on our path, and that only one thing remains: to say “yes to life.”


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Rescuing Dogs: Love, Control, or Self-Destruction?

Rescuing Dogs: Love, Control, or Self-Destruction?

I once believed that rescuing dogs was the purest act of love. I watched people who fed dozens of dogs, slept among them, gave up everything for them — and I thought: this is devotion, this is goodness. But over time, after observing, listening, and questioning myself, I began to wonder: Who is really saving whom? Within the human dog relationship, is taking in one more dog into an overcrowded yard truly love — or is it my own cry for something I never received? Is it an attempt to prove my worth in a world that often failed to see me?

The Order of Love and Harmony in Rescue

I came to understand that love isn’t just emotion or impulse — it has order. Among humans it’s called The Order of Love. With dogs, it becomes The Order of Harmony. These cosmic laws never punish — they simply restore balance. Every time we cross a boundary, something is taken in return. When love exceeds its natural limits, it becomes obsession, control, compensation — disease. And I too was part of that system, believing I was doing good, unaware that every excess in rescuing dogs can consume both the rescuer and the rescued.

The Trap of the Donation System

Like many involved in rescue, I’ve seen how survival often depends on donations — heartbreaking photos, videos of wounded dogs, public calls for help. It becomes a kind of currency — the currency of survival. But this system quickly turns into a vicious circle. There’s never enough — not for the dogs already there, nor for the new mouths arriving each day. Food becomes the cheapest kibble, often expired, or cans made from scraps — what couldn’t be sold becomes “charity.” Dogs in such systems don’t live — they merely survive, stripped of dignity.

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Volunteers feeding dogs in a shelter, reflecting the exhaustion and reality of rescuing dogs

Behind every rescue post lies a daily struggle for food, health, and the survival of the dogs.

 

What a Dog Really Needs to Be Happy

A dog needs more than food and water. His well-being depends on safety, structure, social interaction, and love — not sentimental love, but practical, daily presence. But how can one person provide that for thirty, forty, or fifty dogs? In such conditions, a dog stops being a being. He becomes a number, a function, a projection. Unconsciously, he turns into a symbol of what we lack. When the number of dogs surpasses the depth of connection, love disappears — chaos remains.

The Message Behind Every Dog

Still, I believe each dog arrives for a reason. Even in the midst of chaos, each one carries a message — a fragment of the caretaker’s unspoken story. Over the years, I’ve met people rescuing dogs with genuine hearts and noble intentions. I once shared that belief completely. But now I see that behind every “one more dog” there is often something deeper — something not about the dogs, but about us.

The Glorification of Rescue and Its Burden

What struck me most is how society glorifies this kind of sacrifice. On social media, rescuing dogs earns applause, likes, and admiration. Young people, inspired by the idea of selfless devotion, enter this world without the tools to withstand it. I’ve watched them lose their health, their identity — sometimes even their lives. At first glance, they are heroes — people who give up peace, money, and relationships for dogs. And I wanted to be one of them. But through the Order of Harmony, I’ve learned that behind every excess lies a deficit. Behind every dog, there is often a person who has lost a piece of themselves.

The Dog as a Reflection of Our Emptiness

The principle of respect teaches us that every being has its own purpose and essence. A dog is a creature with dignity — needing space, rhythm, and clarity. When I unconsciously turn him into a symbol of my emptiness, I stop seeing him as a dog. He becomes a mirror of my need. And the dog, in his unconditional love, often accepts that role — even to his own detriment. I’ve seen people surrounded by dogs while their bodies collapse, their relationships fade, their lives revolve only around rescue. I’ve been close to that edge myself, until I stopped and asked: What am I really doing?

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A dog lying next to a person in silence, reflecting the emotional mirror in rescuing dogs

A dog often becomes a mirror of our internal wounds and the silences we carry within ourselves.

 

Who Are We Really Saving — Them or Ourselves?

Through conversations, silence, and self-reflection, I began to see: Dogs often become substitutes for something else — for love I never received, for grief I never mourned, for a part of myself I never accepted. Each dog can unconsciously become a symbol of something lost that I’m trying to reclaim. But the system always seeks balance — not as punishment, but as consequence. So I started asking myself: Whom am I really saving? What am I trying to find through one more rescue?

The Dog as a Call — Not an Answer

I realized that a dog is not the answer. A dog is a call — a call to return to order, to be present, clear, and consistent. A call to recognize the line between genuine love and the unconscious need to patch my own unrest. Only when I see the dog as a dog — not as a projection of my wounds — can I truly love him. Only then can I honor his dignity, his needs, his life.

Stopping Out of Respect

Before taking in another dog, I now pause — not out of fear, but out of respect. Maybe that dog didn’t come to stay. Maybe he came to show me what in me still needs to be seen. And perhaps, when I learn to say “enough,” I’ll finally find what I was searching for all along — peace with myself, my own wholeness. So before I rescue another dog, I ask: Am I ready to rescue myself first?


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Sterilization and Castration: Control, Trauma, or Respect for Life?

Sterilization and Castration: Control, Trauma, or Respect for Life?

I used to be fully in favor of sterilization and castration in dogs—but now I ask myself: is it truly care, or fear? This isn’t just about dogs—it’s about us, and about how deeply we respect life within the human dog relationship.

My Journey: From Advocate to Questioning

When I first heard about mass sterilization and castration programs, I was convinced it was the right path. I believed it was a humane act, a responsibility toward society, a way to reduce animal suffering. I was a loud advocate—waving the flag of the “greater good.”

But today, after years of reflection, dialogue, and personal growth, I ask myself: Was it really for the dogs’ sake, or was it my own need to control something I didn’t understand—neither in them, nor in myself?

The physiological and emotional consequences of sterilization and castration

What does sterilization really do to dogs? More and more research shows these are not “simple surgeries.” When we remove a dog’s sex hormones, we don’t just eliminate reproduction—we disrupt a hormonal axis that shapes behavior, emotional stability, bone health, muscles, and the immune system.

And yet, it’s often done without deeper awareness. Is it really for them, or simply easier for us? It’s easier to live with a dog whose emotions are dulled, whose instincts don’t challenge us, whose energy doesn’t disturb our comfort. But have we truly made that dog a “better companion,” or have we turned him into something nature never intended?

The Pressure Behind a “Personal Decision”

Sterilization and castration are deeply intimate decisions—choices that permanently alter a dog’s life. They require awareness and responsibility, not slogans, pressure, or collective campaigns. It’s not a matter of activism—it’s a matter of conscience.

Understanding activism between care and sterilization and castration control

I was part of that wave. I loudly supported sterilization, believing it would solve the problem of strays and suffering. But over time, I realized that much of that activism comes from something deeper—not just care, but an unconscious urge to control, to “fix” what may not even be broken.

In the human dog relationship, this aggressive, often unknowingly violent call for sterilization and castration isn’t always rooted in understanding—but in an inner restlessness that drives us to “correct” the world, perhaps because we don’t know how to heal ourselves.

Hidden Patterns Behind the Passion

Through years of work with people, I began to notice repeating emotional patterns behind this zeal:

  • Some try to impose order over the chaos they grew up in.

  • Some were taught that love must be earned through “proper behavior,” and use sterilization as a way to prove their value to society.

  • Some unconsciously punish—themselves, others, even animals—out of unhealed pain.

  • Some carry generational trauma, fear of life, or unwanted parenthood—and project that fear onto dogs, denying them reproduction.

  • Some who were abandoned project their sorrow onto abandoned dogs, trying to save them to heal their own wounds.

  • And some are so disconnected from nature and their own bodies that they attempt to “civilize” life itself—where natural rhythm should simply be allowed.

A Ritual of Control, Not Love

These patterns made me question everything I once believed. I came to see that sterilization and castration, in many cases, are not acts of care but rituals of control—born of fear, not love. What we often call “social responsibility” can easily become institutionalized detachment from life itself. When society enforces sterilization as a universal solution, it doesn’t create order—it quietly teaches denial of instinct, vitality, and natural identity.

The larger picture of sterilization and castration and our relationship with life

This isn’t just about dogs—it’s about us. It’s about how we treat what we don’t understand, what we try to dominate instead of honor. I believed I was protecting dogs, fighting for a noble cause. But in truth, it was easier to fight for something “righteous” than to face the questions within myself. Activism gave me purpose, justification, identity.

From Inner Conflict to Inner Peace

Over time—through silence, reflection, and deep inner work—I began to change. I discovered a frightened part of myself, one that sought safety in control and conviction. That part didn’t just want to control dogs—it wanted to control the world, as a shield against inner chaos. Once I recognized that, I began to truly listen. I started to meet dogs—not as projects to “fix,” but as beings with needs, rhythm, and dignity.

Impulse vs. Calling

Then I understood the difference. Impulse comes from unrest—from the need to calm one’s own insecurity. Calling arises from peace—it listens, connects, and unites. Impulse shouts for validation. Calling whispers—it builds bridges. That awareness changed everything: how I see dogs, people, and myself.

 

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A dog running through nature, symbolizing freedom and the core question of sterilization and castration

In every dog’s run through nature, there is a pure joy of existence—a freedom that reminds us what it means to truly live.

 

Awareness and Education — The Real Path to Change

Sterilization will not stop violence or abandonment—it never truly has. But awareness can. Real, personal, heart-centered awareness transforms everything—because it transforms us.

So perhaps we should pause and ask: What drives us to take away from others what we haven’t yet learned to embrace in ourselves? Maybe, by denying dogs their natural wholeness, we mirror our own loss—the disconnection from what it means to truly live.

To Live Means to Feel

As long as we don’t see this, we’ll repeat the same patterns—unaware, unawake. To walk, breathe, and eat isn’t to live. To live means to feel, to choose, to have a voice. Just as a human who has learned only to endure forgets how to return to themselves, so does a dog, once stripped of its essence, lose the fullness of life.

A Call to Honor Life

So—let’s protect life. In ourselves. In dogs. In others.


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